The study of piano and violin is an important part of a balanced education during the school years of K - 12. However, sooner or later, the decision to stick with lessons will inevitably come up as students work through the zigs and zags, and ups and downs of daily schedules and circumstances. If students want to quit lessons the reasons to stay are beyond their own understanding, but parents can understand the incredible benefits of piano lessons. The fact is, no one regrets becoming fluent in the very important and desirable subject of music, and it is up to parents to manage the music education of their children. By making the decision to start and stay in lessons, you can help your child or teen be a step ahead in school and on track to being musical all their lives. Let's look at some of the most common reasons students may want to quit:
LOST INTEREST
The most frequent reason parents give for quitting lessons is that their child has lost interest. Don't be fooled, losing interest is just a symptom of many other unrelated reasons that have nothing to do with liking music or lessons. One reason that young children resist coming to lessons is they are interrupted to leave home while they are doing other things. Also, lessons are private, so the anticipation may not be as appealing as that of going to be with friends at school or a game. But the most common reason students "lose interest" is resisting the one-on-one attention during the lesson to help them focus and concentrate. The level of focus that we achieve at lessons is new to most students and they may resist making the effort at first, but the help we give students at lessons in learning to concentrate is worth every cent of your tuition. If you stick with lessons the benefits of this experience cannot be overstated academically, musically, and in social maturity.
Another aspect of lessons that students may resist is the repetitions needed to put what is being learned into their muscle memory; the same as it is in sports or dance. Since the piano is easy to "play on" without any training, some students don't understand that learning "how to play" is a skill. At home they usually play around a little then rest, play and rest, play and rest. At lessons students play with supervised repetitions, not stopping to rest until improvement is made. When repetitions are played not stopping and supervised by the teacher, the differences in students disappear and even the most resistant have a good lesson and play better.
TOO BUSY
School, homework, sports, or dance take a large chuck of your day; not so with lessons. We are not demanding of your time and provide all kinds of opportunities to schedule or reschedule lessons. Ironically, even though lessons demand the least amount of time, they are often the most likely to be dropped to save time. For example, in schools, music is the first subject cut due to managing the budget or to make time for other class options; and music is the first activity cut by parents for the same reasons. We cannot change the powerful educational system, but we can hope to help parents make the decision to stick with lessons.
Music is a life changing. It is the first study suitable for young children and, if studied when young, the last thing forgetten in old age. Whereas, some of the classes in school are based on studies that will be forgotten or are not truly education at all; and in sports, not everyone is the star. At Hovland, something new is learned at every lesson and everyone is a good student. We can help you manage lessons. Lessons can be regularly scheduled in studio or online, or a combination of both. If you are absent, you can schedule a make up lesson in studio or online.
For high school students we have a special message. Music is a vast subject. As was said by Beethoven at the end of his life's work, "I feel as though I am as yet at the beginning." In high school you are not done, but at the beginning of so much more to do. For example, you are ready to learn how to ad-lib chords and melody to improvise without reading notes. Improvising was a common skill among classic composers such as Beethoven. However, today it is a unique skill and few people who are musically trained know how to play this way. We will teach you to use improvising to play spontaneously and unrehearsed for fun, and for school, church, or other activities that need music. Part of your lesson can consists of music of your choice and we have some good choices too. Another side benefit for sticking with lessons through high school is to demonstrate consistency, which is impressive on a resume for college entrance or for a job.
NOT PRACTICING
Parents and teachers love it when students want to play at home, and students should be encouraged to play what they have learned at the lesson. However, by no means should a student's willingness to practice at home be used as a benchmark to indicate if they are interested or not in lessons. Resistance to practice is not new.One of the most famous pianists from the 20th century was Van Cliburn. He said, "I don't like to practice, never have." Everyone experiences this. Playing is fun; but practicing is a task that requires discipline to manage and, for this reason, Hovland will not give this responsibility to its beginning students. We practice with students at the lessons to develop their reading and technical skills and don't rely on what they do at home. In the beginning, just coming to lessons will help students make steady progress. We definitely want students to play at home and we provide videos at imahovland.com for help, but not every student is enthusiastic to play for themselves or for others. To encourage playing, keep the student's Music Book, Course Book or iPad/tablet on the piano or keyboard in plain sight so it is ready to use.
DON'T WANT TO FORCE LESSONS
First, lets establish that taking music lessons is a gift! It is a gift that is priceless because it is rare and few people have it; even after the first lesson, students usually know more than their parents. It is a gift that opens up a world of musical knowledge. It is a gift that increases confidence because students are recognized for something they can do well. It a gift that is scientifically proven to make them smarter. It is a gift that is enjoyed for a lifetime.
The value of music is often not recognized during the time it is being given as a gift. If you want your children to grow up musical, they need your support, which sometimes requires you to insist that they keep lessons a priority. I know this first hand because I complained about going to lessons and wanted to quit, but my mom just listened without arguing. This silent response had a great impact on me and I remember it well. To keep peace don't try to explain and reason with your child, this usually makes matters worse. Be objective and say, "This is what our family does. When you are grown, you can decide for yourself." For your efforts, your child's final attitude will be gratitutde.
CAN'T AFFORD LESSONS
It may be true that lesson tuition is a sacrifice for some families but it should not be first expense to go. Every investment made for children has value, but if it is a matter of a financial choice between other activities and lessons, we believe lessons have consistently proven to be a better investment for the future. We hear all the time the regret of those who wish they had not quit piano lessons or who wish their parents could have afforded them. We don't hear this same regret for other things. Also, keep in mind that grandparents are often willing to help with the cost of lessons.
WANTS TO CHOOSE WHAT TO PLAY
Students should not expect to tell the teacher what to teach them at lessons; just as they would not tell their math teacher at school what to teach. However, some piano teachers think that teaching music of the student's choice will keep their interest in music. This is absolutely not true. If it works at all, it is only for a short time. Music is fun, we don't have to try to make it fun. For recreation, students can use the knowledge and skills that they have learned at lessons. This is the natural way that learning should work. It is a waste of valuable lesson-time to use it for recreation. A website from a local music school says what is a common misconception today, "We balance musicianship and fun by teaching you music fundamentals using songs you love!" This sounds good, but makes no sense educationally and it won't work! No teacher would say such things except for the purpose of marketing to parents.
A good lesson is not possible if the teacher randomly chooses music by the student's interest. The teacher who adapts to individual students denies them what could be learned and inadvertently creates a ceiling for their potential. Who wants that? Looking into the future, we believe that the pendulum is swinging back to renew the prestige and professionalism of music study to its former self. Step one would be for teachers and educators to return to the importance of music as a subject with graded lesson plans. Step two would be to help parents understand its value so they can better help their children start and stay in lessons.
JOINING BAND OR ORCHESTRA AT SCHOOL
Joining band or orchestra at school is a wonderful musical and social experience that most of us participated in, but music at school should not conflict or take the place of piano lessons. Your music director at school would never recommend that you quit the piano! On the contrary, students with piano experience are a benefit to his or her group. However, you may be required to practice your school instrument a certain amount to earn a grade, and the expectation of practicing two instruments seems overwhelming. We want you to come to lessons if you practiced or not.
Participation in band or orchestra at school is not a substitute for piano. Other instruments are limited to playing a single note, but the piano can play many notes at once. Other instruments play one part and together these parts complete a composition. The piano has the range of all instruments and can play all parts of the band or orchestra on its own. For this reason, few people continue with other instruments beyond school. The piano offers the greatest possibilities for independent performance and a life-time of pleasure.
GOING SOMEWHERE ELSE
We have several option for scheduling lessons. Lessons can be regularly scheduled in studio or online, or a combination of both. If you are absent, you can schedule a make up lesson in studio or online. Changing teachers and going somewhere else should not be an option, unless you are moving, and then, you can choose to continue from our online lessons. We are available online anytime and anywhere in the country or world. Online lessons with Hovland are probably a better choice and more consistent than starting over locally; and you will be able to continue towards graduation.
Parents do not realize that not all lessons are alike. To explain this, here are some concerns some teachers over the years have had about the quality of lessons.